Just how much should one love another person? Forget about the brotherly love for a second, will you? Is there a measure of how much one loves? I always ask myself these questions, again how much love are you supposed to bestow to your significant other? I mean there is so much required from one person that I wonder how relationships are surviving nowadays.
Someone recently asked me what my love language was, I was taken aback, I mean does love have its language with experts in it that I haven’t heard of? Is this a millennial thing? Oh, wait I know, this is a 2020 prank right? Someone enlighten me this instant!
It’s not like I haven’t loved or been in a relationship before, I just haven’t had someone broach the subject as she did. I reflected on our conversation long after and realized that I do have a love language; I just didn’t know it had a name! I love it when he goes all mushy and says I’m the only star that completes his galaxy or when he engages in activities he doesn’t like just for my sake.
Are you just like me? Do you want to know where you stand in the love language spectrum? Below are the elements of the love language.
- Words of affirmation- Being reassured, tops the list. Everyone appreciates when they are told that they are loved, a text message here and there about how good you are and how much you are loved can make your day.
- Quality time- There is nothing that makes you feel more loved than having that undivided attention from your significant other. Them showing you that there is no other place they would rather be than right there with you. This is you if you love when your partner listens and engages with you in conversations.
- Receiving gifts- Gifts out of seasons are the best! Little trinkets here and there, reminding you that you are in their thoughts, other times with no reason at all, maybe they were going about their day and saw something that would make you happy and bought it. If this makes your heart warm, then it’s your love language.
- Acts of service- How do you feel when your partner goes out of their way to do something for you, or just clear their schedule to run errands for you? If you would rather they do this than gifting you then this is the language for you!
- Physical touch- Interestingly, this is not a cup of tea for everyone, but if you do enjoy a few touches during the time spent together, or just a brush of his hand on your shoulder, this is the language for you! If a hug from your partner out of nowhere makes your insides wobble, then personal touch is your culprit.
If you feel that you fall in all five categories you are not wrong. It’s okay to want them all, also if you don’t know whether you value one over the other, the internet provides quizzes with leading questions that will help you know which love language comes first for you.
Lastly do not overthink it, love however you feel like and show it in whichever way you want. Love is a beautiful thing and understanding how your partner wants to be shown love is all that matters and will go a long way in improving your relationship.